How to Always Reach Your Goals in 4 Simple Steps

Last time, I talked about how much it hurts to make yourself change, but I gave a few tips to help get through it.  Today, I’m going to continue with that, by giving you some advice on how to make sure you always reach your goals.

1: Keep Your Goals Concrete

Always keep your goals as something that you can do and can easily bulletpoint how to get there.  Instead of “I want to be a millionaire”, think about what that really means.  There’s a big difference between having $1million, vs having a net worth over $1million, for instance, on top of WHY you want to be a millionaire.  Instead, think about the reason for the goal (for instance, maybe you actually want to retire and live without want), then think about what that entails.  In this example, it would be to be self-supporting to the point of guild-free retirement, for instance.  But even that isn’t truly concrete, we need to drill down more, which brings us to point two:

2: Split Big Goals Into Smaller Goals

Layer your goals instead of having a single overarching goal with impossible conditions.  Using our previous example, potential goals might be “save $300 over the next week” or “research and invest 30% of your savings into ____.”  These are things you can do right now, and giving yourself smaller goals to work off of give your brain a small rush which can keep you going for the next goal.  When done properly, this can work in much the same way that people get addicted to Facebook games and similar.  Failing to do this, however, is one of the leading reasons anyone gives up their goals.  As an example, I am currently working on learning Japanese by giving myself a small set of phrases and words a day to study, mostly through the website Memrise as well as local help from some Meetup groups that I was able to find, and that is going well.  On the other hand, I started to pick up the bass guitar by trying to learn My Soul, Your Beats! basically from day 1, which is a pretty difficult song.  I haven’t touched the guitar in weeks after disheartening myself with it, and will need to create new goals before moving forward again.

3: Give Yourself A Timeframe

To an extent, the shorter the better even.  Make sure your timeframe is achievable, but moderately difficult, as this will help to push you to advance.  For instance, you could easily learn 5 kanji in two weeks, but if you push yourself, you can also learn the same amount in a single day most likely.  Using shorter timeframes makes it much less likely that you will try and just push it off until the last moment (or ignore the goal entirely!) but keeping it reasonable, taking into account the rest of your life, means that you are more likely to achieve your goal, which in turn means more likely to boost yourself rather than become defeated.

4: Track Yourself

Keep a log of your goals, how many you reach, and even when you do fail.  Try and write what went well and what didn’t, particularly in the case of a failure.  For instance, you might have had a goal involving playing the stocks, but then found out that either trading fees or just the general unpredictability of the market caused your investment to be lost, rather than gained.  That’s fine, it’s a setback, but it is also a learning experience.  Take that knowledge and move forward with another goal to reach the end you are hoping to achieve.  Keeping tack also keels you accountable, as you can always look back and remind yourself of any goals you might have otherwise forgotten, or become to disillusioned to keep up with.

And there are your secrets to success.  Don’t let yourself get bogged down and use these simple mental hacks to keep motivated, and I’m sure you can do whatever you put your mind to, what do you think?  Feel free to comment if you have your own tricks for goal making, and I’ll be happy to discuss, but for now…

Ja ne!

The Ranting Loon

It Will Hurt

Changing your life is not easy.  No matter if you are trying to quit smoking, take up exercise, eat better, study more, or any other improvement you might try.  You have built up habits, often bad habits, which will hold you back.  These may be physical, such as the muscle pains from starting up a weight or cardio regime from scratch, or mental as you reach for that pack of cigarettes you always kept hidden in the boot of your car.  Sometimes, they’re a bit of both even.

Do not be afraid of your habits and failings, but do not let them hold you back either.  Habits are hard to break because they are comfortable, you know exactly what will happen if you conform, how it doesn’t hurt like change does.  Sometimes, a lifetime after breaking a habit, you’ll still want to go back, sometimes, once it is broken, you’ll wonder why it was ever a thing.

Growing up, I’ve had a lot of bad habits, and several good ones.  I used to smoke, I used to drink, I still don’t eat right, and I barely move if I can avoid it, to name a few.  But to become the person you were meant to be, you have to move past these roadblocks.

Sometimes, life will give you a hand in it, I quit drinking because I developed an allergy to it as a side effect of Asian Blush Syndrome, for instance.  Drinking became excruciating, and it is easy to stop something which hurts.

Sometimes, often times, life really doesn’t want to help, at least at first.  I quit smoking cold turkey, while still attending the same social events that caused me to start it in the first place.  It wasn’t easy, it particularly wasn’t terribly fun, but I knew it was for the better, and I convinced myself to stop.  Sometimes even today, I want to go to the local store and buy a pack of cloves, just to enjoy the scent and warmth.

Regardless, you must not give in.  Make breaking your habits a new habit.  Don’t try and give them all up at once, but pick one, stick with it for a day, two days, then a week, two weeks, remind yourself why you’ve made the change as you reach the three week milestone, cheer for yourself after a month, but never look back.  Back is always a rose tinted history, but instead make new friends with your better habits.  Always pair removing one thing with the inclusion of another, more productive thing.  For instance, don’t just stop smoking, maybe spend the time dancing and enjoying other parts of the club rather than just the front stoop.  Don’t but the carbs, think of it as adding greens and protein.  Don’t “watch less TV”, instead “explore your world”.  Doing this will give you a positive spin, something your brain can latch onto as a reward, instead of only giving yourself the stick.

Personally, I am making it a habit to break away from my computer (particularly games and TV) more, and I’m replacing it with exercise and the goal to ready myself for Japan.  What habit are you working on?  What will you replace it with?  Let me know in the comments and let’s make that journey together.  And follow me and next time we’ll talk about ways to always reach your goals.

Ja ne!

The Ranting Loon

You Will Fail

Like me, you will fail.  It is natural, human even.  But do not let that failure fester in you, just get back up, brush it off and try again.  The secret to success is to give yourself the correct attitude, if you fail 99 times, but finally nail it that one time, it was all worth it, don’t you agree?

I’ve done a lot of study in psychology, neurolinguistic programing, self-help, etc, and it all always comes down to this fact: you will fail, the trick is what you do with that.  The truly successful take the moment to see why they failed and then discard that failure as a failure, instead simply recording it as how not to do your goal.  Thomas Edison, for instance, is credited with saying that he didn’t fail thousands of times when inventing the lightbulb, instead, he merely found 10,000 ways not to make one!

Don’t let the fear of failure stop you from trying, or you will never do anything.  Instead, accept that failure is inevitable on the path to success and press ever on!  You’ve failed thousands, maybe even millions, of times already in your life and you’re still here, safe and sane.  How bad could it be to fail another time or two?  Do you remember your failures from learning how to bike, drive, talk, etc?  Or instead do you remember the sweet success from when you finally took the training wheels off, or got your license, or gave that speech?  I know which I remember.

So, how many times will you fail today?

Ja ne!

The Ranting Loon

Manga Review: Inside Mari

So, I know it’s been a little while, but here’s the review I promised for Inside Mari.

First off, disclaimer: while Inside Mari is one of the best introspective manga I have read in a long time, it has a fair amount of explicit adult content.  It isn’t a true hentai, but there is talk about sex, sexual acts, and related depictions.  Honestly, it is pretty artistic in my opinion, but wanted to put that out there before anyone picks up the manga and then gets surprised.  In addition, this is going to have at least some spoilers.  If you want the spoiler free version, know that it is a deep manga about a guy who ends up in a girl’s body and the antics thereof.  For the rest of you, read on ahead!

Continue reading Manga Review: Inside Mari

I failed

I’m sorry, blog, for I have failed you. It has been months since my last post. I still haven’t posted my review of Inside Mari, or written any other reviews or rants.

I’m very sorry for this, and I hope you can forgive me. This failure hasn’t been without gains elsewhere, however. I have started in earnest my work to becoming fluent in Japanese and am making good progress so far. Within the last two weeks, I went from 0 ability to read hiragana to nearly 100%, and I have learned over 100 new words and phrases as well. I’ve met a brilliant girl who has offered to tutor me, and have been picking up some excellent resources such as memrise.com and fluentin3months.com. I’ve met some awesome people in a meetup.com group (two groups actually) to learn about the culture and language of Japan, which has further assisted me as well.

In addition to my language learning, I’ve started a new secret project which I will unveil here once the time is right. Something awesome for an old otaku like me. Hopefully you, dear readers, will also enjoy it. But that’s maybe getting a bit ahead of myself.

I still have that Inside Mari review coming up, hopefully I’ll get it finished later today, and moving forward, I’m going to use this space to talk about my language learning, the tips and tricks that are helping, and what doesn’t help at all, etc.

This blog isn’t technically a job, and I sure as anything haven’t been treating it as such, but that is no excuse for just abandoning it like this. I am sorry, and I will be better. Maybe one day, I’ll be able to make this be my actual job even, but to get there, I know I have to put in the work first. So let me end this with a promise to you, that I will post something at least once a week, be it a review for an anime I am watching, a game I’m playing, or insights into Japanese culture and language that I’ve learned, I’ll make sure not to leave y’all alone again like I did before.

Gomen nasai and ja ne!
The Ranting Loon

Today, I Killed Myself

I hope that today’s title caught your attention.  Don’t worry, dear readers, I’m not talking about committing suicide or anything.  I know that I deal with depression now and then, but this isn’t one of those times.  Instead, this is a wake up call to myself, and, honestly, this post is as much to the me of tomorrow as it is to you.

Today, I killed myself.  It is far from the first time, and it will not be the last either.  What I mean by that is that today, I am a different person than I was yesterday.  I will be another person again tomorrow as well.  I will kill myself again and again, ever changing, ever evolving, until I become the person I want to be, fully realized, true and real.  Until that time, I will murder the me of yesterday every day as I strive to become that better thing.

Yesterday, I was a coward.  Yesterday, I was slovenly.  Yesterday, I hid myself from others.  I was a thing, not a person, a creep, filled with desires and no drive to obtain them.  Not a person, just a machine walking through each day in a haze of sleep, game, work.  It wasn’t a life, it was an existence.

Today, today, my friends, myself of tomorrow, I am brave.  I will face the dangers and uncertainty of life and laugh in the face of scorn.  Today, I am clean.  I will not abide myself to put off cleaning until the sink is full of rot and stink, or the trash has overflown into a second bag.  Today, I will not hide, for I no longer fear rejection.  Rejection is not something to be afraid of, it is simply a lesson in what not to do.  Today, I am a human.  I will fall, I will fail, but I will get up and try again.  I’m not a machine, stuck in a single rut, but able to learn, adapt, and eventually, get it right.

I can learn anything if I put my mind to it.  Today, I am learning Japanese.  Tomorrow, perhaps I will learn the saxaphone, or how to program, or maybe what it feels like to swim in the ocean late at night.  By learning, I will improve myself even further.  By learning, I will continue to evolve.  I will not stop learning.

Today, I killed myself that tomorrow I may truly live.

Ja ne!

The Ranting Loon

Procrastination

So, today I was trolling about the internet as I often do.  I’d called in sick from work because I have two days left to pack up an entire house to move to my temporary home while I await the HOA approval for my new place, and like always, I’d waited until the last minute to do the bulk of it.  So, work called, I claimed to have the flu (don’t tell me you haven’t done something similar at least once), I then got right to work, right? Continue reading Procrastination

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